Just in: Kanye West the second coming of Jesus! wait Yeezus

Picture from http://yeezianity.com/

Picture from http://yeezianity.com/

Apparently Kanye West has inspired a new religion called Yeezanity.  according to the "religion's" website, Yeezanity is built on 5 pillars and believes that "the one who calls himself Yeezus is a divine being who has been sent by God to usher in a New Age of humanity,"

The 5 Pillars

1. All things created must be for the good of all

2. No human being’s right to express themselves must ever be repressed

3. Money is unnecessary except as a means of exchange

4. Man possesses the power to create everything he wants and needs

5. All human suffering exists to stimulate the creative powers of Man

I would usually blow stuff like this off because I believe that talking about it may shine an unnecessary light on what i believe to be pure foolishness, but there was one thing the founder of the religion said that really caught my attention.  According to Noisey the founder said:

"In a lot of ways, after I created it, I reflected on it and thought that this was just a rehashing of Christianity, but just throwing Yeezus instead of Jesus," he told Noisey. "And you know what? That's why I felt Kanye did it. He just put the name there. Jesus has all this baggage and all these connotations, and Yeezus is this new thing -- and that's why I say in the 'Our Savior' part of the site, 'We don't speak of his public persona.' Because Yeezus is when Kanye elevates to that God-level, which I feel like we all have the potential to do. That's why if it takes off, in the future, people would forget Kanye and his antics, and instead focus on what the message is."

From his words it seems like he needed a replacement for Jesus because of the baggage and all the connotations that the name Jesus has.....   As a Christian this made me recoil but also reflect on how the world sees Jesus...  I feel like in many ways Christians(myself included) have presented the world a Jesus that comes with baggage and connotations.   His statements show that he is longing for a savior,  and he felt that Kanye would be a more suitable savior than Jesus and actually has other people believing the same thing.  I recently heard Marian Jordan say "We exist to make Jesus famous", according to this post it seems like we may be making him infamous.  

To the founder of this religion if you ever read this post.  I want you to know that Jesus comes with no baggage and he is actually the place you can bring your baggage and he will carry it all for you.  If the church/religion has ever ostracized you for expressing your creativity know this God himself was a creative "In the beginning God created the heavens and earth...", I personally apologize for that.   Flowers, waterfalls, lush forests, and beaches shows the artistic creativity of God and I believe he created us to be creative.  

I'm committed from now on to do my part to make Jesus famous with no baggage, no condemnation and no connotations but to show his true nature of love, redemption and salvation.


How moms can baby proof their homes

How can moms can baby proof their homes

Okay, if you have small children, then you already know it's a must that you Baby Proof your home. And if your child is anything like mine, creativity is key. Kids are very smart and if you're not paying attention they can and will get into everything.

If you have a small child that's not yet walking, indoor play fences are a perfect way to keep your child out of trouble. They come in cool bright colors and are usually large enough to give your kid space to move about, but keep them right where you want them. This is perfect for kids that are just beginning to crawl or stand.


My most favorite item would have to be socket plugs. If your child is mobile, these are a must. They can be found in almost any retail store or baby store. My baby girl likes putting things inside other things, so plugging all our sockets was very important. I want her to be able to explore our home, but safely. They also make door latches that keep bigger kids from leaving or entering a room where they probably shouldn't be, without an adult, like the bathroom. :-)

This leads me to my next favorite baby proofing item. My angel actually loves this one too. It's the Bathtub Spout cover. My princess has one that's a giant rubber Ducky. It's the cutest thing ever. Not only does it keep her from being burned by the hot faucet or bumping her head while taking a bath, the ducky's hat actually lifts up and allows you to pour baby bubble bath in which drains into the tub perfectly while your filling the tub with water. It's genius!


There are tons of ways to baby proof your home, but I've learned that everything out there wasn't for me or my baby. Something's didn't really have a child proofing method, like how do I get my kid to stop changing the tv while I'm watching my favorite show. :-). This is where creativity comes in, we found an old remote we don't use anymore and put brand new batteries in it. We keep it right where the tv is so she believes it's the real thing. When she presses the buttons they light up and she's satisfied. Sounds like a good idea to me. I get to watch my show and she gets to play with the remote.

I hope you like my suggestions. Remember, be creative and have a little fun with it. After all, kids don't really know what's good or not good for them. It's up to you to show them how to have fun and do it safely.

Stay Bella Moms and Dads,

Bellagyrl Nikki

FASHION REPORT: Spring Colors for 2014


Spring Colors for 2014




How do you choose what colors you will wear? Do you go online and Google the colors for the year? Do you walk through the mall and look at all the window displays the stores have set up? Do you secretly follow that trendy friend who’s in the know and keeps up with everything pertaining to fashion? Or do you just simply do your own thing?


The fashion world thrives and lives on colors. Every year the fashion world eagerly anticipates the arrival of the new colors for the year. In the past couple of years we’ve seen all the shades of purples, blues, and magentas. They even brought back the yellow and blue combination with stripes, along with the idea of color blocking. I love color combinations. Just this weekend I paired a magenta blouse with some royal blue shoes and a grey jacket and it popped! 

 What are the spring colors for 2014

 What shall we anticipate this year? According to Pantone, with a slight modern twist, this year colors start out with soft pastel colors ending with a bright and vivid blue. Leatrice Eiseman, Executive Director for the Pantone Color Institute explains, "This season, consumers are looking for a state of thoughtful, emotional and artistic equilibrium. While this need for stability is reflected in the composition of the palette, the inherent versatility of the individual colors allows for experimentation with new looks and color combinations."


With colors such as placid blue, violet tulip, hemlock, sand, paloma, cayenne, fressia, celosia orange, radiant orchid and dazzling blue, this color palette is a good combination of colors that will blend well together.


I am not big on pastels colors. However I do love the colors at the end of the palette. Fressia (a mustard color), cayenne (a burnt orange), the celosia orange, radiant orchid, and dazzling blue are all the colors from this fashion color report that you will most likely see in my wardrobe. Am I a fan…. No not at the moment. Nothing in particular stands out to me. However, as the year goes by, I am sure it will grow on me.


Stay fashionable, stay bella,







Celosia Orange

Celosia Orange

Placid Blue

Placid Blue




Approachable or Not???


Everyone should have their own personal style that is unique to you and only you. However, does our style interfere with being approached? Ladies will you approach a man if he has on dirty shoes? And men… will you approach a lady if she has on her workout gear with her head wrapped?

I would like to think that I am very stylish, however, I dress for me. Some might say otherwise, but I guess they know more about me than I do (sarcasm). I am not a fan of leaving the house any ole kind of way. I have to be decent, even if its just to go to the grocery store for some milk. I have friends who put on makeup just to go around the corner because you never know who you might see lol (is what they say). However, I do not believe that the clothes that I wear have anything to do with being the “catch of the day.”  On the other hand I have also seen some people who come out of their house looking like death, house shoes, hair uncombed you get the drift.

So here’s the question… Do my clothes or my style dictate how approachable I am???

In my opinion It depends…

Women, are we looking to get approached while working out in tight-fitting clothing or little to no clothing at all?  I know we often say we are dressing this way because I want to look good for me?  But is that totally true?  How could we expect a guy not to approach in that situation? How about if we have the tightest dress on at the party, or the shortest shorts at the cookout, or at church? Most times we don’t intentionally dress to attract attention, but SOMETIMES we do!  I recently spoke to a male friend who said that the way a woman dresses can dictate how he approaches them.  He said they get a different approach if the look like they look like they are just trying to "Get it" v/s if they are dressed nice yet conservatively.  

Now men, do you spray yourself with that extra spay of cologne, brush your hair a little while longer to get those waves right, or how about leaving a few buttons unbutton so that your chest can be on display? We know y’all like attention too.

What  are some other factors that make women and men approachable and unapproachable other than style?  Wedding ring?, wearing perfumes or colognes?, the presence of children?


So again I ask, "Do my clothes or my style dictate how approachable I am???"


I want to hear your thoughts…




Still Single During the Holidays...


At one point in my life I would dread the arrival of any holiday season that stressed the need for comforting moments with a mate. After spending several years wanting to have that experience, I gave up. First of all, I wasn't really sure why I even felt that way considering the fact that even with two past engagements and countless prospects, holidays were never really my thing anyway. Maybe it was the continuous commercials that placed an emphasis on the bling from a ring, or the snuggling by the fire place that I don't have (LOL), who knows? After getting out of this funk years ago I really decided to take this time and focus on me. Here's a couple of tips for all of our singles that I think helped me get though!

1) Movies, Movies, and more Movies-If your anything like me I am way too busy to take the time out to catch up on the latest box office hits while work is in. Grab a couple of dollars and treat your self to a movie or two. If your really watching your budget for the price of a matinee you can grab several movies from places such as as RedBox.

2) Me Day-I live for Me Days. It's the day that you do whatever you like to do. Schedule a mani-pedi, massage, or go window shopping. If your on a budget grab your nail polish and get creative or go thrifting. It's all about you so take this time out to explore your likes and dislikes.

3)Take Yourself To Dinner-You know that restaurant you've been hearing of, well go check them out. Now is the time to wine and dine yourself. This is also a great opportunity to expand your choice of places to go. Who knows you may need this list for you and your future mate. If not this may expand your choices for your next ladies night out!

4) Read/Meditate-Whether it's your Bible, motivational book, or latest jaw dropping drama grab a book that will catch your attention and get to reading. I have several books I haven't been able to finish. I'm looking forward to doing that this holiday! I find that I am so busy that I spend very little time praying. (I am just being honest!) Take this time to renew and refresh your relationship with God. Don't just pray either! Wait for Him to speak and guide you as your allow Him to rejuvenates your spirit man!

5) Reorganize-Why do we hold on to clothes we haven't worn in years? I had to ask myself this several times. Get in that closet and go to town. Who knows you maybe able to swap clothes, shoes, and accessories with your girlfriends. We did this recently and had a blast. Since some of my girls are skinny minnies, LOL, I even found great things for my daughter!

Listen, one day Mr./Ms. Right will come and you may find yourself using this list during your spare time. Until then embrace your singleness by getting to know you!

Happy Holidays,



25 Black People Asked to Leave Wild Wing Cafe after Girl says she felt threatened by them: I was one of the 25

At this point if your breathing you have probably heard about the incident that happened at a Wild Wing Cafe in N. Charleston SC.  If you haven't heard the story you can listen to the Live 5 news report here.     

There has been a media storm surrounding this event and the story has been published by the likes of the Huffington Post, BET, USATODAY.  My wife(bellagyrldee) and I happened to be two of the members of the group of 25.   One thing I like about the web is that everyone has a platform to give their opinion on a story, and the comments and opinions on this story have ranged from insightful to laughable to downright nasty.  While the events of that night was unpleasant to all that were involved, I think it has opened an opportunity for a dialogue about stereotypes and how they affect the way we treat people and how we are treated by others.  Reading the comments and opinions of others made me do some self examination of my own bias and sterotypes toward certain groups of people and while I consider myself to be fairly objective, I had to recognize that even I have some bias and stereotypes that influence my actions and attitude toward certain groups of people.   While reading thru comments on various sites I was a little taken aback by the sentiment people feel about a large group of black people.  Based on the comments I  found that there are a lot of people black and white that literally find it unbelievable that a large group of black people can sit in one place and not act like farm animals.  One commenter posted


I knew there was more to this “story”. All chain restaurants have video cameras. Of course we all know we won’t be seeing that anytime soon. Anytime you get a group of them together like this, there is going to be cussing, insults thrown around, complaining. People like these have no business in a Wild Wings Cafe, none whatsoever. They are better suited for the Golden Corral, Ryans or the Chinese Buffet down the road. Someplace they can get away with little or no tipping, which is what they are known to do. If I was eating in the restaurant and saw them, I would have intentionally slowed myself down. - See more at: http://www.radiofacts.com/woman-wild-wings-contacts-radio-facts-states-black-patrons-asked-leave-several-reasons/#sthash.Do6gEwM3.dpuf

Besides the obvious racist sentiment of this comment the theme of black people not being able to gather in a place without there being cussing and complaining seems to be one that is shared by a large number of people.  It's frustrating to know that if I go and gather with a large party of my friends that we are already judged based on the bias and stereotypes that have been perpetuated over the last few decades.   I am resolved to use the platform that this event at Wild Wings has provided to start conversations about stereotypes and how they negatively affect all ethnic groups.   I think we should all take a moment of self examination so that we can recognize where our individual prejudices lie and then reach out to those groups of people and start conversations so that we can really get to know one another.  Maybe then we can become a better community of people who see each other in a different light and begin to bridge that gap that keeps groups of people separated.  Your thoughts?   



Platonic Relationships: Mission Impossible???


I ran across a Facebook post on yesterday that really made me think. Once upon a time single men and women did not seek out friendships with a married person unless they were befriending both of the spouses. Nowadays you find a lot of married people who are friends with people of the opposite sex who have no interest in being friends with he spouse. I have even heard a person go as far to say "I was there before her." That thinking leads to unnecessary drama. Once your friend decides to get in a serious relationship, your friendship with him/her no longer takes precedence. In my personal opinion I feel people can definitely be platonic friends, but I also find it inappropriate to have friends of the opposite sex who aren't trying to befriend your spouse. Seems to me that could lead to a lot of trouble...


in response.....

My opinion from the single and dating perspective is that I certainly agree with both BellaGyrlTee and BellaGyrlDee. Yet, I think when you're single its a bit different. If you are just dating and its not serious then of course there should be no doubt about who comes first in that moment of your life, your friend(s). However, when things start to get serious, it then becomes difficult to juggle two relationships (cuz thats what it is). But if your friend is really a friend, then he or she will understand where you are headed in life and the will step back, support, and let you live!


In response... 

As a married woman I would have to agree with you BellaGyrlT. There is nothing wrong with a platonic relationship, we are adults and we should be mature enough to handle a relationship with a person of the opposite sex who is not our partner. I'll even go as far to say that I don't even have to be chummy chummy with my husband's female friends as long as they respect me as wife and acknowledge me as such. I say this because I do realize that my husband will meet other women in his line work that I may never come into contact with or even have a desire to meet for that matter, but as long as it is made known that he is a married man and therefore at every and ALL times UNavailable, I'm cool with that. Now all that nonsense about "I was here first" is a bunch of bull...ish.  If you love me as a friend then you love all of me, my spouse included, you support me and you would make every effort to befriend my spouse or at least show respect to them (i.e. acknowledging your place in the relationship as friend ONLY) and whatever the spouse says and/or plans takes precedence over what you say or plan every and all the time. I do believe it's most definitely up to the spouse to make sure those friendships lines are never blurred and that they are primarily responsible for ensuring that their friend(s), same sex or not, respects their spouse, but that's another story for another day...